Some people find CFNM a completely topsy-turvy fetish. According to them, everything’s the wrong way round. Girls are (generally) prettier than guys, so surely it’s the girls who should be shedding their clothes, their nakedness the centre of attention? Right? What sane guy would want some knockout chick to stay dressed from head to foot, and take the role of parading around in the nude upon himself?

Actually, a huge part of the appeal of CFNM lies precisely in that flipping of expectations. For girls, it can be wonderful to escape being the centre of attention, to become the voyeur rather than the exhibitionist. And vice versa for guys.

But men and women also have a very different attitude to the clothes they wear. For men, their suits, shirts and jackets are practical, social, they help to impress, to ward off the elements, to disguise flaws. But when it comes to sex, sensuality, intimacy – then they are little more than an impediment. By stripping down, a man makes a statement that he is relaxed, off his guard, approachable.

While women use clothes in some of the same ways, ultimately their relationship with their wardrobes is much more all-encompassing. Clothes aren’t just about projecting an image for the outside world. They’re also about weaving fantasies, creating a special magic, especially inside the boudoir.

This fantasy can be just as powerful for the man as for the woman, especially when he is nude. Nudity is his entrance ticket to her fantasy world – a price well-worth paying. Without the distraction of his own apparel, he can fully absorb the loveliness of her clothed body and, if he is fortunate, get to feel her silk, chiffon and lace on his own bare skin.

So take your clothes off, you lucky boys.